5 Signs You Need A Social Media Detox

Something I have been thinking about lately is the regular need of a social media detox. I find myself doing it mainly on the weekdays as since I have been working from home and juggling with other things I am working on, sometimes I do not think twice about it. It would not be an understatement to say it has been AMAZING. But one needs to find the balance because I can go from staying away for a few days, then the days turn to weeks, but to me, it is worth it.

Social media is something I am recently becoming customized to while I work on my whole Honeyluxe brand so sometimes I feel like it is as if I am stepping away from work, but I think there is a message in this for everyone. I know so many of us who are addicted to their phones aka social media. Even if it is not for work, it definitely is a habit that consumes a lot of us – and usually in an unhealthy way. It can leave us feeling “on” all the time, take us away from friends and family, and consumed by comparison – among SO many more things! All things that are a bit MUCH.

So with my own social media detoxes that have been happening, I wanted to talk more about it on here. But before saying “here’s how to take a social media detox,” I think it’s important to know if you actually need one. Just because I did/do does not mean you do – but I have a feeling you might! See if you find yourself nodding along to any of these five signs…

Your Thumbs Hurt

I know this might sound silly, but it really is a little problem that happens! I call it the “scroll thumb” and my thumb will literally cramp up when I am on Instagram or Facebook for too long. My entire hand feels weird but I can definitely notice my thumbs. I figure this cannot be healthy and just like we would lay down if our legs were tired and sore, it makes sense to give our hands a break from all the tech –including scrolling!

You Are Comparing Yourself 24/7

Boy! Comparison really is the thief of joy and I definitely fall into the comparison trap and have been trying hard to recognise it. It usually happens when I have been on social media for too long and not spending time with friends, family, and on myself. It will creep up with work, with what people on Instagram are sharing vs. what I am doing that day (aka sitting in my room with leggings and oversized top on looking like a hot mess), with relationships, and so on. If you find yourself constantly thinking about other people or out of your own brain, it is probably time for a break. I can not tell you how refreshing it is if you are in this mood!

You Can Not Remember The Last Time You Took A Break

When was the last time you went a whole day without your phone or checking social media? Honestly, if you can not remember, it is time for a break. After all, our minds need breaks from the noise of social – so give it a go!

You Are Thinking Of What To Post Instead Of Enjoying The Moment

This one can sometimes be difficult for me. I notice that I need a break if I am always thinking about what to pose for, post, or take a story for. Instead of thinking about what sounds good on a menu, I am thinking about what will photograph well or whatever. Which sometimes I need to do when I am in taking pictures for content (blog/Instagram), but when I am not, I do not need to!

There have been so many times when I think I’m too busy to workout or to meet a friend for dinner or to prioritise self-care – yet when I looked back at my day, I spent random patches of time on Instagram throughout the day. Even if it’s just 10 minutes here and there, that time adds up! It’s time-consuming! So if you are not prioritising things that make you feel good or that are important in your life – but find time to scroll Insta – think about reversing that.

Ok so how do you feel after reading the list? Are you falling into signs that you need a break?

Let me know your thoughts!

Love Always,

Liz Fashanu

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My Thoughts During This Season

So last week on my Instagram stories I shared how up and down my emotions have been the past few weeks. We are really living through an epidemic! Seriously, just let that sink in for a second. Not only that, but there has also been an uproar on the police brutality and racism in America and the UK as with other countries are taking a stand for it! And so honestly, I am just PRAYING for a change. I just know a change is truly coming…

There are so many different aspects and angles to how my mind is grasping this whole situation. There is a positive outlook and then there is, of course, the negative thoughts that can sometimes cloud my brain. In Deuteronomy 7:9 it reminds us that we should know therefore that the LORD your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love Him and keep His commandments, to a thousand generations and that is what I am going to lean on always.

Positives

  1. This is definitely a great time to refocus on me physically, mentally and spiritually. We may be going through so much but I truly believe God would not put us through anything we can not handle & with it is important to make the best of this season!
  1. Spending more time in the word. Reading the Bible more, turning to the bible for inspiration and motivation is super enriching and prayer journaling as I always feel like my mind is in a better place when I am focusing on building my relationship with God.
  1. Staying connected with the outside world. To be honest, it will always be a work in progress. I have always spoken highly about keeping a good balance of social media and the real world. Your girl is really trying. I have made sure that I am not staying isolated from my friends and family and trying to stay active as I can on social media.
  2. Having time to work on things behind the scenes. I know it probably is not great me not giving too much away but I can not wait to sure what I have been working on and all will be revealed soon enough!

I have been able to grow in spiritual maturity, lose a few pounds and spend more time focusing on my health and goals. So that is all good!

Negatives

Alright, so then there is obviously the negative side of my brain that brings all the bad and unwanted thoughts in at the worst times. I will keep it all the way real… I can be an overthinker and more than ever during this season I have the opportunity to be alone with my thoughts. It is so easy to stay in a negative space and it is important to be intentional. A lot of times when I feel like this, I turn to the Bible or my circle. It always helps!

I came across the scripture that talks about how if we are even upon epidemic, we must repent our sins and He will return our land to us. In the end, we really just have to do our part but that seems so far out of reach when people, instead of spreading love and kindness, are spreading hate and cruelty!

My oh my have I yoyo’d with my diet! Yes, my streak of being healthy normally lasts for a number of weeks, where I may have a cheat day or two. But when I break that streak, boy do I BREAK that streak. It could be a week of me eating pounded yam, lots of rice and sweets. Especially my guilty pleasure chocolate. Which does nothing good for my skin! I honestly feel like boredom mixed with eating my emotions is the cause of this. But we thank God, self-control is key and I constantly pray that God will bless me with this.

Let me be honest. I do always feel better in my quiet time and my conversations with God. I know that He is completely in control of this season. I know God does not cause us any harm but it sometimes feels weird to be in this. So many things happening in our world right now point to what the Bible describes as the end of time. Am I wrong? The virus, all the deaths, the hate among our own people. I do sometimes get overwhelmed but I am reminded in Isaiah 43:19 – Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

Let me know what your thoughts are, I would love to hear them!

Love Always,

Liz Fashanu

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Fuel For Thought: PRAYER

How Distractions Can Actually Fuel Your Prayer Life

Philippians 4:6 – Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.

Imagine this… You sit down to pray. Then you close your eyes to all distractions and begin to speak to God. Start pouring your heart out to Him and then…

You remember you forgot to get milk at the supermarket earlier that day.

GREAT. Okay, you begin again. You are on a roll now, praying for a friend’s recent health concerns…

When a picture of the unpaid electric bill you have been meaning to take care of flashes through your mind!

Does any of this sound familiar? It has happened to me too many times to count! Maybe not the exact details, but do you ever find when you are trying your best to clear your mind and focus on God, the distractions come flooding in one by one, like little relentless attackers?

If so, then I have good news: it is actually okay for your mind to wander when you pray. It happens and honestly, I promise you are not a failure at prayer if you are easily distracted.

Let me say it again because you really need to know this:

You are not a failure at prayer if you are easily distracted!

This is so important because the feeling that we are a prayer-failure is one of the biggest blocks to becoming the prayer warrior God is calling us to be!

Satan would really love for us to begin to pray, encounter distractions, and give up.

But that is not our portion! Did you know that you can actually use distractions to our advantage?

I thought of three steps we can take in order to use our distractions as the momentum to fuel our prayers. Let me tell you how it works:

Step 1: Expect the Distractions

Let us face it, we live in a fast-paced world. Words and images flash past our phone screens more quickly than our brains were probably designed to handle. We have been trained to multi-task as a way of life. Is there any question why it is so hard to quiet our minds to connect with God, or to create white space for meditation and reflection?

So be realistic when you decide to begin your quiet time. Stop expecting that sitting still is going to come easily right away…because it is not!

Expect the distractions to come because they will.

Anticipate the attack.

Step 2: Embrace the Distractions

So now you know the attack is coming. What are you going to do about it? Now that you are fully aware distractions may come. You are going to embrace them as they come at you! Embrace your distractions…by writing them down, then continuing to pray. They may be something weighing heavily on your heart and what better time than now during your quiet prayer time to focus on it. Or it could be something important you need to do at a later point in time. You will need to be armed with a journal/notebook or even just paper and a pen, and so when you think about the milk you forgot at the supermarket…

Write it down.

As the picture of the unpaid bill flashes through your mind…

Write it down.

The mere act of writing your distractions on paper captures them, robbing them of any power they might have over the rest of your prayer time. They are captives on your list, to be dealt with only when you decide to deal with them – on your OWN terms.

Step 3: Utilize the Distractions

Okay, now we this is where we use the distractions to actually fuel our prayers.

Here is how it might look:

You are praising God and remember the forgotten milk. You write a note down so you remember to put milk on your shopping list for next time, and shift into praising God for providing the means to buy the shopping for your family. This might remind you of the homeless shelter you volunteered at, and the woman with three young children who was interviewing for a job the following week. You go with it and pray for God’s provision and for the interview to go well.

Then you move on to praying for your friend’s health, and get distracted when you realize you have not paid the electric bill. You write down a reminder to remember to pay it later, and then shift into asking God to provide for the physical and financial needs of your friend and her family, like utilities and housing.

By doing this, not only are all of your distractions dealt with immediately, but they are actually FUEL for your prayers! And an added bonus is that it actually trains your mind to shift your thinking to prayer in many different, seemingly non-spiritual circumstances.

By God’s grace, these three tips will help you leverage distractions to fuel your prayer life? Try it, and let me know!

Love Always,

Liz Fashanu

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