Things I’m Doing Right Now to Keep Me Happy.

What a year we have had right?

There is no doubt 2020 has brought so much of negativity, but I have always been (or tried to be at least) a glass half full kind of lady. I do not always succeed at it, but lately, I have been trying to remind myself of all the GOOD and everything making me feel happy right now. We have SO much to be grateful for.

I really want to spread that positivity to you guys too so I decided to write a little list! I am not saying this simple post will change your life, but maybe it will give you some ideas for what you can do for yourself in this area! 🙂

Being vulnerable with you guys

I have spent some time writing up a few future posts for my blog and one thing I have maintained is being open and honest about me. Sometimes it is hard to decide how much of my life to put online, especially since we know not everyone is looking out your best interests. Although there is so much I do keep away from socials, I find being open with you guys and sharing certain aspects of me kind of therapeutic for me. It reminded me how much of a community I have here and I feel so much love and support. All of that to say, if you have something weighing on you or on your mind, share it with someone! Being vulnerable is hard, but can make you feel like a weight is lifted.

Walking

During the first lockdown when gyms were closed, I shared how much I loved my prayer walks. Well, when gyms resumed I split it between outside walks and uphill walks on the treadmill. We are only a few days into the second lockdown and I’m already missing the gym SO much, I had really found my mojo! But that will not stop me anyway, full time walks outside it is! It feels SO good to get outside, breathe deep and move – even if it is just for 20 minutes.

Giving myself grace

It is so easy for us to apply so much pressure on ourselves. We want to get everything perfect and have life floating at all times. I have really taken a step back the past few weeks to just enjoy my life, my career and ensure I am being present in my life. Giving myself grace is something I have been learning to do for the last few years because as much as I hate to admit it, I can not do it all! So anytime recently where I have beat myself up for not doing “enough” I remember to give grace and it’s so cathartic.

Spending quality time with loved ones

Whether that be a quick Facetime call, WhatsApp voice-note or even calling to check-in. I am ensuring that I am being more intentional with spending time with my loved ones. Since we are so restricted with meeting face to face, we have so many other platforms to stay in contact and I really am trying to utilise them all!

Working out

I use the term “working out” loosely now that gyms are closed again! I had built up a very good streak before Lockdown 2. I really do feel better when I move my body so it will be lots of walking and stealing mum’s bike to cycle for the next month! I do enjoy home workouts too and will continue to incorporate a few a week (Chloe Ting and Fitness Blender are my favs).

Studying the bible

Whenever I feel like I am getting overwhelmed or too busy, getting back to studying the bible always makes my heart feel full.

Sunday planning to get ready for the week

Sometimes I am really on top of this and honestly, sometimes I am not at all, but I have been lately and it is been making such a big difference in my work week! I know it does not feel fun to think about work on Sunday, but if it can make the week even a little easier, it is so worth it. Highly recommend!

Using and experimenting with candles & essential oils

2020 has been rough in a lot of ways but it was the year that I got into essentials oils and I am so grateful for that! They make every day happier for me, T K Maxx does a range of amazing candles that I love that I am obsessed with!!

As I said, I know this is not a life-changing post, but I hope it encourages you to do something for yourself that makes you happy!

Love Always,

Liz Fashanu

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5 Signs You Need A Social Media Detox

Something I have been thinking about lately is the regular need of a social media detox. I find myself doing it mainly on the weekdays as since I have been working from home and juggling with other things I am working on, sometimes I do not think twice about it. It would not be an understatement to say it has been AMAZING. But one needs to find the balance because I can go from staying away for a few days, then the days turn to weeks, but to me, it is worth it.

Social media is something I am recently becoming customized to while I work on my whole Honeyluxe brand so sometimes I feel like it is as if I am stepping away from work, but I think there is a message in this for everyone. I know so many of us who are addicted to their phones aka social media. Even if it is not for work, it definitely is a habit that consumes a lot of us – and usually in an unhealthy way. It can leave us feeling “on” all the time, take us away from friends and family, and consumed by comparison – among SO many more things! All things that are a bit MUCH.

So with my own social media detoxes that have been happening, I wanted to talk more about it on here. But before saying “here’s how to take a social media detox,” I think it’s important to know if you actually need one. Just because I did/do does not mean you do – but I have a feeling you might! See if you find yourself nodding along to any of these five signs…

Your Thumbs Hurt

I know this might sound silly, but it really is a little problem that happens! I call it the “scroll thumb” and my thumb will literally cramp up when I am on Instagram or Facebook for too long. My entire hand feels weird but I can definitely notice my thumbs. I figure this cannot be healthy and just like we would lay down if our legs were tired and sore, it makes sense to give our hands a break from all the tech –including scrolling!

You Are Comparing Yourself 24/7

Boy! Comparison really is the thief of joy and I definitely fall into the comparison trap and have been trying hard to recognise it. It usually happens when I have been on social media for too long and not spending time with friends, family, and on myself. It will creep up with work, with what people on Instagram are sharing vs. what I am doing that day (aka sitting in my room with leggings and oversized top on looking like a hot mess), with relationships, and so on. If you find yourself constantly thinking about other people or out of your own brain, it is probably time for a break. I can not tell you how refreshing it is if you are in this mood!

You Can Not Remember The Last Time You Took A Break

When was the last time you went a whole day without your phone or checking social media? Honestly, if you can not remember, it is time for a break. After all, our minds need breaks from the noise of social – so give it a go!

You Are Thinking Of What To Post Instead Of Enjoying The Moment

This one can sometimes be difficult for me. I notice that I need a break if I am always thinking about what to pose for, post, or take a story for. Instead of thinking about what sounds good on a menu, I am thinking about what will photograph well or whatever. Which sometimes I need to do when I am in taking pictures for content (blog/Instagram), but when I am not, I do not need to!

There have been so many times when I think I’m too busy to workout or to meet a friend for dinner or to prioritise self-care – yet when I looked back at my day, I spent random patches of time on Instagram throughout the day. Even if it’s just 10 minutes here and there, that time adds up! It’s time-consuming! So if you are not prioritising things that make you feel good or that are important in your life – but find time to scroll Insta – think about reversing that.

Ok so how do you feel after reading the list? Are you falling into signs that you need a break?

Let me know your thoughts!

Love Always,

Liz Fashanu

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My Thoughts During This Season

So last week on my Instagram stories I shared how up and down my emotions have been the past few weeks. We are really living through an epidemic! Seriously, just let that sink in for a second. Not only that, but there has also been an uproar on the police brutality and racism in America and the UK as with other countries are taking a stand for it! And so honestly, I am just PRAYING for a change. I just know a change is truly coming…

There are so many different aspects and angles to how my mind is grasping this whole situation. There is a positive outlook and then there is, of course, the negative thoughts that can sometimes cloud my brain. In Deuteronomy 7:9 it reminds us that we should know therefore that the LORD your God is God, the faithful God who keeps covenant and steadfast love with those who love Him and keep His commandments, to a thousand generations and that is what I am going to lean on always.

Positives

  1. This is definitely a great time to refocus on me physically, mentally and spiritually. We may be going through so much but I truly believe God would not put us through anything we can not handle & with it is important to make the best of this season!
  1. Spending more time in the word. Reading the Bible more, turning to the bible for inspiration and motivation is super enriching and prayer journaling as I always feel like my mind is in a better place when I am focusing on building my relationship with God.
  1. Staying connected with the outside world. To be honest, it will always be a work in progress. I have always spoken highly about keeping a good balance of social media and the real world. Your girl is really trying. I have made sure that I am not staying isolated from my friends and family and trying to stay active as I can on social media.
  2. Having time to work on things behind the scenes. I know it probably is not great me not giving too much away but I can not wait to sure what I have been working on and all will be revealed soon enough!

I have been able to grow in spiritual maturity, lose a few pounds and spend more time focusing on my health and goals. So that is all good!

Negatives

Alright, so then there is obviously the negative side of my brain that brings all the bad and unwanted thoughts in at the worst times. I will keep it all the way real… I can be an overthinker and more than ever during this season I have the opportunity to be alone with my thoughts. It is so easy to stay in a negative space and it is important to be intentional. A lot of times when I feel like this, I turn to the Bible or my circle. It always helps!

I came across the scripture that talks about how if we are even upon epidemic, we must repent our sins and He will return our land to us. In the end, we really just have to do our part but that seems so far out of reach when people, instead of spreading love and kindness, are spreading hate and cruelty!

My oh my have I yoyo’d with my diet! Yes, my streak of being healthy normally lasts for a number of weeks, where I may have a cheat day or two. But when I break that streak, boy do I BREAK that streak. It could be a week of me eating pounded yam, lots of rice and sweets. Especially my guilty pleasure chocolate. Which does nothing good for my skin! I honestly feel like boredom mixed with eating my emotions is the cause of this. But we thank God, self-control is key and I constantly pray that God will bless me with this.

Let me be honest. I do always feel better in my quiet time and my conversations with God. I know that He is completely in control of this season. I know God does not cause us any harm but it sometimes feels weird to be in this. So many things happening in our world right now point to what the Bible describes as the end of time. Am I wrong? The virus, all the deaths, the hate among our own people. I do sometimes get overwhelmed but I am reminded in Isaiah 43:19 – Behold, I will do a new thing, Now it shall spring forth; Shall you not know it? I will even make a road in the wilderness and rivers in the desert.

Let me know what your thoughts are, I would love to hear them!

Love Always,

Liz Fashanu

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