Let us just get straight into my five thoughts when it comes to modesty…
1. Yes, God is looking at my heart, but everyone else sees the outside!
When God is on my inside, my outside shows it. He is too powerful, too big—to hide in some invisible corner of my heart. I can tell a lot about others’ values by what they wear. Shouldn’t they see my King in me?
2. Modesty is not about covering my body; it is about revealing my dignity.
I respect myself; I am too special to be put on display. I dress to honour God because I am confident—I am sure of who I am and what I stand for. I have a healthy level of self-esteem; I do not resort to flaunting my body for attention.
3. I disrespect men when I dress carelessly—when I know I may distract them or tempt them to have impure thoughts.
Men are definitely responsible for their actions. I truly believe that. However, if someone were to flash ten thousand pounds in my face, would I not have a flicker of thought about what I could do with that kind of money? How can I blame men for a mental response that only comes naturally?
I do not want to behave selfishly; I know that God does not take it lightly when I intentionally cause others to sin.
4. Modesty is as much about attitude and conduct as it is about clothes.
When my accessories are louder than a continuous drumming sound taking in a downstairs apartment. When my social media posts are designed to showcase my utter greatness. When my voice never fails to carry across the entire restaurant… I am not being modest.
5. Being modest is one way I fulfil the greatest commandments: To love the Lord with all my heart, soul, and mind, and to love my neighbour as myself.
If I love God, I will behave in accordance with His Word. If I love those around me, I will dress in a way that respects them, promotes unity, and encourages wholesome attitudes.
With all this being said, I think it is important to invest as much time on my inward beauty as I do on my outward appearance. My beauty should not come from outward adornment- magnificent hairstyles, showy jewellery, and expensive clothes. It should be that of my inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit.
I know that outward beauty is fleeting. But inward beauty can never fade.
Let me know your thoughts below!