In today’s secular culture, we are bombarded with different ideas and voices telling us what the world thinks we need to do, think, or say.
Unfortunately, those voices sometimes extend into the Christian arena. Some are easy to recognise as worldly however others are harder to discern and sound like they might be valid.
One of the easiest ways we fall into listening to these voices, is by comparing ourselves to others. Especially on social media! Facebook and Instagram feeds have us seeing snapshots of others’ lives and feel like our own life falls woefully short. Even Sunday morning can look picture perfect: beautiful bedrooms, the best outfits. And if you have children, when yours are misbehaving, that is when everyone else’s kids look like angels.
Comparison is the thief of joy, I just want to encourage you that things are not always what they seem.
Ladies remember that most of the time we are seeing carefully-curated photos, which show us glimpses of the cleanest parts of each other’s worlds. If we compare these glimpses to our own lives and listen to the voices that tempt us with some vision of attaining another woman’s perfection, we will, OF COURSE, feel discouraged. If you are like me, you might feel guilty and maybe over-achieve to make up for what you think is lacking. We do not want this!
What are you chasing?
This is definitely not what Christ has intended for our lives. Chasing someone else’s perfection is really exhausting and unattainable. Obedience is what He has called us to. We need to follow Him, listening to His voice. “ My sheep listen to my voice; I know them, and they follow me (John 10:27 NIV).
We are called to chase after the perfection of Christ. To see His vision for our lives in the big picture, the Kingdom picture. “But seek first His kingdom and His righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well“(Matt 6:33 NIV). That Kingdom picture is so much bigger and more glorious than the tiny hints we see in each other’s lives on social media.
I love to see Godly, mature women and strive to be like them, to seek out their teaching and counsel, and be mentored by them (Titus 2:3-5). But we need to be careful of putting their example and lives above the Word, or again, comparing where they are in their physical and spiritual lives with where we are. They have walked a longer path than we have, and their lives are going to look very different from ours.
What are you hearing?
Ladies, it is not wrong to admire our friends’ pictures and these snapshots of their lives, but when we go to social media, we have to guard ourselves. We have to learn how to discern the truth from the lies in the voices we hear. Evaluate what you are hearing with Scripture. God is faithful, and the Holy Spirit will convict us through His Word.
The enemy wants us to believe lies so we take our eyes off Christ, and fix them on our social media feed, finding our security, satisfaction and confidence there. He would have us listen to the voices that make us feel guilty about all the ways we aren’t measuring up to our friends. He will tempt us to be prideful about the ways we think we are better than they are.
Putting on something implies that we probably need to take something off, or put something away from us. When it comes to social media, the thing we need to put off is the collective voice of the world. Remember in the bible it tells us to“Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things“ (Colossians 3:2 NIV). As believers, when we pick up our phones to scroll social media, we are called to put to death covetousness (v. 5) and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator (3:10 NIV).
If we are seeking out the truth to apply it to our lives, we need to dwell on God’s Word. This is so we can discern which voice is the one we need to heed. By doing this, it enables us to hear His voice clearly over the voices that inundate us daily.
Gospel truth for your social media feed
Above all, God’s grace abounds daily in our lives. We come to the Father through Jesus the Son. He gives us peace and washes our guilt and pride away. Jesus says to us, “I am the way, the truth, and the life…” (John 14:6 NJKV) His is the voice we listen to.
So go ahead and like the Instagram photos. But ask yourself, who are you going to listen to today? What voices are you going to say ‘no’ to?
Lift your eyes to Jesus. Go to His word. Pray daily. Hear Him calling out to you and finally, listen to the voice of Truth.
Let me know your thoughts below!