1: You are not single because God has forgotten about you.
And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows. — Jesus via Matthew 10:30, 31.
The Bible says that the love of Christ surpasses knowledge (Ephesian 3:19). The love of the Father is unfathomable and honestly mindbogglingly inconceivable. How a perfect God could ever love us when we were yet in our sin is a mystery to me… But since we know He loves us, we know that there is no good thing He will withhold from us!
If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask Him! — Jesus via Matthew 7:11.
God not only loves us, but He cherishes us. He could never forget about us, for we are the very reason He sent Jesus to die. We are the motive for Jesus’ mission on earth. God was willing to lose Jesus for a moment in order to win us for eternal life. That same God could never forget about us, even when we forget about Him. We are a jewel in His crown and an important character in God’s love story. We are literally the “damsel in distress” (this is not just for the ladies, but for you, too, guys..) whose Knight in shining armour paraded into the city on a donkey. That same King could never forget about His bride!
2: You are not single because you are unattractive.
Then the Lord will appear over them; His arrow will flash like lightning. The Sovereign Lord will sound the trumpet; He will march in the storms of the south, and the Lord Almighty will shield them… The Lord their God will save them on that day as the flock of His people. They will sparkle in His land like jewels in a crown. How attractive and beautiful they will be! — Zechariah 9:14-16
We already know that we are fearfully and wonderfully made, that every fabric of our being was not only designed and fashioned by God, but His hands stitched and moulded us into the person you and I are today.
God has been dreaming about us since before the world was made. How He longed for someone who looks exactly like us! Out of His bosom, we were formed. There is no possible way that you–God’s finest handiwork–are single because you are not attractive. You are a wonder to behold.
Do not think you are single because of how you look or because (you think) no one notices you. Perhaps, the onlookers do not have the capacity to fully appreciate the amazing creation that you are. Even if they cannot see your wonder or behold your beauty, you stop God in His tracks every time He looks down on you..
3: You are not single because you have baggage.
Do you want to know how I can dare to say this bold statement? I’ll let you in on my secret. We all have baggage! There is not a single soul in existence who does not suffer or struggle from some sort of baggage or wound. Whether self-inflicted or afflicted from external forces, we all have baggage in our trunk. The good news about this is that God is a healer!
But for you who revere My name, the Sun of righteousness will rise with healing in His wings. And you will go out and leap like calves released from the stall…on the day when I do these things, says the Lord Almighty. — Malachi 4:2,3
God has likened us as young calves who have been locked away in a stall…that when He comes and heals us from our baggage, we will leap and gallivant with freedom, exuberance and the testimony that God has redeemed us and removed the reproach of baggage! No, my dear, you are not single because of your baggage because we all have baggage, and God is faithful to remove the baggage and all of the damage that is associated with it.
4: You are not single because there are no more eligible men or women left.
This is a lie that the devil wants you to believe this in order to have you settle for the next person who makes his or herself available to you. The devil is a liar!! There are so many men and women of God swarming around this world, but that is not the issue and it should not be your concern.
In your waiting season, your delight should be in the Lord. Trust Him. When we complain that there is no one left for us to marry, we are ultimately expressing our unwillingness to trust the Lord to write our love story. How silly that we would dare second-guess the Author of our life’s story when He knows the end from the beginning! So, yes, there are plenty of amazing people who God is yet preparing for us but do not get in a rush to end your singleness so that you can snag yourself one of them. Ladies, every good man is not your man!
Guys, every beautiful lady is not yours to have and hold forever. Wait on God to lead you to the one you’re supposed to finish your life’s mission with. Delight in God and stop looking!
5: You are not single because you are inadequate.
Come to Me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light. — Jesus via Matthew 11:28-30
To my lovelies who suffer from feelings of inadequacy, hopelessness, incompetence, or just a sense of impossibility that marriage or thinking a healthy relationship could ever be a reality in your life… I leave you with this simple, yet powerful truth…
God gives strength to the feeble, hope to the hopeless, and comfort to the weary. It doesn’t matter what you have experienced in life, you are not inadequate and a healthy relationship is in God’s dream for you!
If you are a believer in Jesus, the Bible says you are more than a conqueror! Every good thing is available to you and me, not because of anything we have done to deserve it, but simply because of what Jesus did for us on the cross. God loves marriage. He desires love for you because He is love. Love doesn’t need you to perform in order to earn it. You need not jump through any hoops. All you must do is let God embrace you in His arms and envelop you in His inconceivable love. That love heals, protects and completes us all through and through. It will wash away every thought and lie from the enemy that tells you that you are inadequate and somehow don’t deserve true love.
God’s love will rebuild everything in you the devil tried to destroy and when that love does its perfect work, God can trust you in the arms of a man or woman who is almost as crazy about you as God is.
I have given you five reasons why I know that you’re not single, but I will close by giving you one reason why I know you ARE single right now. It is this beautiful truth:
You are single because, for the time being, your God wants you all to Himself.